No plans from my father yet on how to dispose of H's stuff in a weather-efficient manner But then the sad thing is that he has very little stuff in my apartment, while I have a lot in his. I will actually post later today with some questions on how to deal with accessing some of my stuff. Sigh...
Both H and I are very competitive, but not with each other. He always supported me. However, his saying that "I never failed" raises a red flag about how he sees me. Of course, I have failed at many things (aside from the marriage): I've put on weight, I was not the best manager of my time and allowed myself to work into the wee hours. But he looks at it just in terms of my career.