It's only as I step back during this process that I see how badly I've let myself be gaslighted for the past X years. I've been listening to her negative views of me and her unfailing status as a victim for so long that I find it hard not to believe it myself.
But it's all bull.
This morning she went into victim mode once again - blaming me for being unreasonable and selfish and for causing mediation to break down and for throwing out money and risking the future of our kids - all because I refuse to agree to less than joint custody.
It's hard to believe she can be that one sided. She truly sees a fair arrangement that is in the best interest of the kids as being one sided and selfish on my part.
I can't even discuss it with her because she is so fixed in her opinion and locked into her own crazy belief in her status as the victim.
This morning I had to stop the argument she started and walk away. Discussing things with her reminds me of the old "War Games" quote: "The only way to win the game is not to play".
She visited her L yesterday. I called this morning and scheduled a meeting with mine.
Crazy.
Me 42, W 39, S8, S6, S2 M 11y, A & ILYBNILWY 11/08 Walking away from a bad situation.
