Rach, have you read Dr. Phil's Relationship Rescue? I don't agree with everything the man says, but I DO recall him dealing at length with couples who have divergent interests, he sees this as a plus rather than a minus.
I agree with you, Jeanine, that all couples need outside sources of communication, interest etc. It helps keep our discussions alive when I HAVE something interesting to share.
Sure there are moments when I feel like the silences are ominous...but usually it's just my internal dialogue that's feeding this feeling..."Look, we can't find anything to talk about...he's bored...I'm bored...this can't be right....he talked to HER all the time "
But in reality, sure he talked to HER...it was 90% of their A. They were kept apart by geography and the minor inconvenience of two marriage contracts. Sure they had lots to say.
For CJ's part 70-90% if what he said were LIES...
He MADE himself sound interesting...for those who can't recall, he told her that he and I were getting into repeated rows over her (when in reality I didn't know she existed).
He told her that my brother punched him in the face and knocked out his front tooth (which he broke on a cherry pit in 1998).
He told her he'd quit his job and our house was up for sale. He told he he'd moved out and was livign with his MOTHER!!! (Even made up a bullch!t e-mail supposedly written AT his mother's place)
He told her HE was an artist, painted the wonderful painting behind our couch (in fact a wedding gift from my BIL)
So hell YEAH their conversations were stimulating!! Of course she was enthralled with this fictional man.
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