What to do when their friends suggest leaving?

[Bummedout]

Well, interesting you find it "entertaining." I assume you are implying I'm either lying or trying to say that this single action "saved" my marriage. Neither is accurate. If I'm reading this incorrectly, please, clarify.

I'll humor and 'entertain' you for a minute for other folks sake.
By no means do I feel like 'the article' was the sole action that 'saved' my marriage. For one thing, as far as I'm concerned, I'm not "out of the woods" just yet, at least as far as I know. The relative quickness of this "turnaround" is not lost on me.

Right now, I kinda think a number of 'actions' came into play. For one thing, my prior knowledge of this site from 2001-2002, and my having read Michelle's first book, and some of what I retained from it. Being somewhat aware and getting a handle on it quickly was certainly beneficial, in my opinion, anyway. Only time will really tell.

Prior to my being aware of divorce busting in my last marriage, for months I did a LOT of things wrong and screwed things up pretty good before I started doing this stuff. Not so this time.

And again, I don't consider myself "out of the woods" yet. But I do feel like getting proactive quickly saved me a lot of heartache, and right now, it seems like she really has rethought her desire to split up. Again as you so astutely pointed out, not a lot of time has passed. Less that even your sarcastic 'yea, right' implication, actually.

Have any of you naysayers even read the article in question? While I doubt some of you will cop to it . . . I doubt you did. For one thing, I only gave her the part about talking to friends.Nobody bothered to ask about that before authoritatively, and often rudely telling me what a Putz I was for even considering such an action. They were wrong . . . and too damned bad. Implying I'm full of crap or that I think this one action "saved my marriage" doesn't alter this reality.

Further, this might not even work in all situations. Unlike some of the sanctimonious twits here, I'm not gonna pass judment on what will work and what won't for different people.

My wife and I don't argue all that much, particularly heated arguments. So in my situation, I feel like even if she might have been a little annoyed at first, giving her some perspective on what her friends were saying might be a tiny step back now for a bigger gain in the long run. I feel like I was dead on with that line of reason, in my situation.

Frankly, I don't even know for sure it annoyed her at all. For the sake of this thread, I'm gonna assume it did though. But . . . she clearly "got over it."

I'll also point out that it wasn't like I "broke her down" and she said "I was right, and she was wrong, and that Bummed is an exalted high-thinker, ALL HAIL BUMMED!"

No . . . . she said I was right about the article, and more correctly, even though she said "You [me] were right" . . . I infer she meant the article was accurate, and she ended up seeing it.

I'm not sure why ya'll are so "entertained" by my problem and my attempts to solve them. I take it quite seriously, and find nothing "entertaining" about it. Maybe this is "entertaining"
to pompous, quasi-expert blowhards who consider themselves "The Exalted High-Thinkers" of this forum. Who knows, after all, I'm just a Cabinetmaker, and your exalted high thoughts amaze and strike fear in me . . .lol.