Divorce in 1 month Help with exposing please need

[twolf]

MY stich just found out WAW was involved with man for the last 9 months he is every wher her mom dad and everyone sayed they were just freinds. She addmited to me yesterday i tryed calling the guy and he would not answer phone.

I let his employer know that he destroyed my family.

Told her dad he was in shock.

She called me and said not to call her freinds or family after me calling dad and OM.
She called the police to have me stop calling her.

I need help on telling MIL and freinds i dont know how or what to say say . We have a 2 son andhe is playing father to him.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Just tell them the truth, that this isn't what you wanted, but that you're fighting for your marriage and your family. Tell them you still love her, but that you have to protect yourself, and you felt they should know the truth.

Do not talk to OM -- it serves no purpose, and elevates him in importance. If he's married, however, you should expose the affair to his wife.

I'm so sorry, Twolf -- I know this sucks. My bomb day was three years ago almost to this day! Today we are reconciled, so I know that anything is possible.

Puppy

[twolf]

We have a month till divorce this guy was at our wedding i new he allwas had feelings for her. My FIL was in shock thought jusy freinds> I know that MIL knew and she told my wife it was a mistake us getting married. How do i tell our freind and peole we know i need to blow this wide open.

[Puppy Dog Tails]

You only tell immediate family, maybe a BEST friend, and possibly an employer, if the affair's been taking place at a location where they both work. You don't go exposing it willy-nilly to anyone and everyone, as it will only make reconciliation that much more difficult, and make you look vindictive and spiteful.

You really need to work on your posts, dude. Several people have already told you that they're unreadable, and I'm pretty sure that's why you're not getting much response.

Puppy

[twolf]

I told FIL yesterday About A, the WAW told him a bunch of BS said it was all about child custody stuff. I explained to him im not lying, she is mad that i exposed affair it is backlash to take the focus of the A. I dont think he belives me.

Told him this guy thats been a freind for so long was a predator that he took advantage of WAW when we were having problems.That his is not her huband and not my sons father.
Fil told me the O/M M came to my sons bday partty.

Tryed calling the guy at work he would not answer. Did tell the receptionest at his job whats going on.

Then WAW cALLED TO TELL ME NOT TO CALL HIM.

Then police called to say i was harrsing wife and Om .Told the cop what i found out.

Now what do i do i think MIL allready knows just keeping FIL in dark?

[Puppy Dog Tails]

Yuor gues iz ass good az mein.

Pupy

[Cadet]

Pup -

You tried

[twolf]

Update sent email to waw close freinds And MIL stateing .

Our freinds our marrige is about over through no fault of my own,you have problley heard many things that are untrue about me to hide the affair here the facts. Ive just learned that my wife the mother of my child has been having an affair.It has gone on for many months. I have never threatened or tryed to harm my wife like she would want you to beleave. I belive in my marrige and trying to save my family. I still love my wife.
A predator took an advantage of her when we were having diffuclties in our marrige. He was a bias shoulder to lean on, he gave her advice to serve his own purpose.When i got married i never intended to have a open marrige.This man wrecked our home. I still belive our marrige can be saved. If you see this man all i ask is for you to rember he ruined a marrige,caused the destruction of my family,my son will grow up in a brocken home.I just ask that people that are not in a open marriges and made it through the tough times to understand and not supportanyone that thinks what going on is ok.sincerlly H-W-H and S dad.


I did get a phone call from my old lawer last night saying that W called him and wanted to know if i retained him again.He told her that i havent talked to him in a month. I just let her know that if she was going to try to get me in trouble again making false charges heres my att number.She did complain that that it wasnt right for me to tell people that she is in an affair.That it was not true, This after she ammited to me.


Got text from WAW.

I Just want you to know that you week attempt to slander me isn't
working. I didnt have an affair. Anyone that knows me knows what ihasbeen going on in my life so you are not supprising people. What you are doing is making yourself look insane' and people are laughing at you.

Its funny two days ago she addmited to me face to face about A now it not happening.

Im kinda lost anyone have any addvice??????????

[TimeHeals]

To quote Sgt. Joe Friday from the American TV series "Dragnet", "All we want are the facts".

You are including too much opinion and too few facts.

Also, who are you planning on telling? You don't want to create a scandal when you expose this; you want to just expose the affair, so you need to choose your audience carefully, or you will just appear to be vindictive.

What's done is done. Time to back off a bit after reading the thread. Wish her luck on her new life without you or some such thing.

[twolf]

I told mt wifes two close freinds and MIL.MY W told me about the A.