Hi Julia! I dont worry about her perse, I know he is done and theres NO way he would leave again, or change his mind and want her back....It just that I had never met her before, she was this person everyone told me was no competition, he had no chemistry with, she was annoying, loud, it wouldnt last, blah blah (the story of her downing a bottle of beer at the traffic lights was classic). So I 'dismissed' her in my mind.
But having seen her.. she smiles alot, she's confident, vivacious, has long dark lovely hair, a good figure (bit fatter than me) yes loud...but all these things to me seem.. exciting, edgy, seductive!
I emailed him and told him "its built up into this mythical creature in my mind and something to be afraid of, whether I match up. I know its ridiculous. I just feel reduced, minimised, small.."
He replied "its not ridiculous to feel that way but that doesn’t mean there is any substance to it. In my eyes you are the opposite of all those things you feel, you are bigger and better than anyone I know. And I love you!"
