HA! Psychology would be his LAST choice! Too close to emotional stuff. Thanks for the tips about conversation. Listening and asking quetions is good especially the part about the nod, smile and maybe a wink thrown in for good measure. Starting the conversation off is the tough. He says he CAN'T talk to me. I'm not sure what that means, but he stays away from ANYTHING personal-except kids. I kwow he could talk to the OW about anything. What did they talk about besides his faltering marriage? Everything is so new in an A. I explained that to my H, but we still need to be able to talk and we don't. That is a real biggie with him. It's hard to keep finding little things to bring up to talk about becasue if I didn't it would be silent mostly and he really hates that, and uses it to say he can't talk to me again. See the cycle here. It's just not that easy. I need to talk about interesting things that are not threatening to him which narrows it down quit a bit. Like I said, we both have no problem talking to other people. I know he obviously does not feel safe talking to me. I guess listening more will help that too, no? Rachael
