Quote: So, having said that... 1. I ceased all questions regarding OW. 2. I backed way off from discussing our relationship. 3. I kept my fear, insecurity and unhappiness out of the view of my H. (Okay, there were a few splippages - . We're only human afterall). 4. I explored and practiced my H's love language as often as possible. 5. I Practiced patience beyond any measure previously. 6. I learned to zip my lip and stop having the last word for the most part. 7. I practiced the fine art of doing nothing in times of doubt.
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OMG!!! This would be my list EXACTLY....
However, in my case, there eventually was a lot of discussion about OW (initiated and okayed by CJ...he may have come to regret that a few times).
But after I got my questions answered, over a period of a month or so??? Then a few lingering ones? That was pretty much it.
Now actually I'd LIKE more discussions of our R...
And I must agree with your and Pam's advice to Rachael (Hi R!) regarding the "conversation" thing. It IS mostly about active listening...the eye contact, the smile, the nod...the prompts..."really!?" "What else?"
Studies show that people rate as the best CONVERSATIONALISTS those who actually spend more time asking questions of them and then listening actively!!!
So, what does your H find interesting?
If it has anything to do with Psychology I'm your source!!!
