Quote: question - what is the time line of your sitch, in particular, when did the bomb drop, when did he move out and when did he move back in and when did you notice a definite change?
We were in a state of decline for a few years, but it wasn't until October of last year that I noticed some unsettling changes in my H's demeanor and behavior. This coincided with the hiring of the woman who quickly became the OW.
H officially dropped the bomb in Janurary of 2003. He wanted to end our marriage at this point and pushed to leave. He gradually moved out over the following months but did not start the physical nights away (on a part time basis) until this past summer.
H appeared to lose interest in living else where midway into autumn. His changes were gradual and faltering.
I can't say that I noticed a definite change, because it unfolded by degree.
