Your H sounds like my ex, he didn't want to deal with finances, so I paid all the bills out of the joint acct. When he wanted a D, he told me to continue to pay the bills b/c he trusted me but after I found out about ow, he opened his own checking acct & said "you are not in control anymore", I told him then I never wanted to be that I tried to get him involved & he didn't want to be. But, I know why, b/c he can't handle money!! He is not good at it! Now the ow woman handles the money. Since the beginning of the year my alimony check comes in ow's name only, I have a strong feeling she is hiding money from my ex.
That would be awful to have the ow close to you! Really doesn't make sense.
I'm so sorry you are having to go thru all this mess!!!
