Quote: Tell me more how you figured out what his LL were.
Glad you asked. There is a book (which is a favorite around here) called "The five Love Languages" by Chapman. I highly recommend it and it should answer that question much more thoroughly than I can.
Quote: I truly don't know what to ask him/say to him.
Then be a good listener, ask questions. You can always use validation in order to keep the conversation going, and the plus side of that is you'll be accomplishing two positives at the same time. A true economy of energy.
Quote: We need to talk about things other than our kids and work, but what??
Agreed. What did you use to talk about when things were more comfortable between you? For my H and me, politics is a major topic, one in which we connect completely and have an endless stream of issues to choose from.
How about introducing something completely new?
Experiment.
Quote: I guess I have to learn the gift of gab huh?
Well...I'm not sure what that would entail - not sure about the kind of pressure you might be putting on yourself by thinking of it quite like that. Personally, I'd lean toward being an active listener to start with and then let it flow naturally from there.
