I'm sure that must have been so very hard to see that picture. Since he has not been trying to hide anything from you (like my H did) it very well could have been left there on purpose.
We didn't have kids so I just can't imagine what you are going thru to hear D talk about ow, sickening!
The whole thing is sickening!! I'm sorry you have lost PMA, it does seem like he is getting off pretty easy. But, it's not over yet! Keep the chin up, get in there & fight! I had to do things I never thought I would do but it paid off for me in the long run.