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Awoken,

Liar's don't trust.

I can't believe I so bluntly called my wife a liar. Seven months ago, I never would've done that. Things have really changed in my mind.

More growth.

I've grown some real contempt for her, and I'm wondering how healthy that is.

Normal. Least I hope it is because I spent a chunk of time there. It passed.

Yes, she is a liar (said it again). She is unhappy and in pain. I can't excuse what she is doing, what she has done to our family.

I understand. Everything in that sentence is true in my sitch.

Do I need to maintain my compassion for her, to better co-parent?

I'd say yes, Awoken, even though mine doesn't involve co-parenting at all.
For your children's sake.
And compassion doesn't equal it's-alright-honey-I-understand.
Only you can answer that question, though.

In another thread, two posters commented that they were both over-analyzers. I suspect that's me too.

Hell, aren't we all?