I reread my post form last night and think to myself that some people on this board never acted in the manner I did and still have WAS. I know some of you are saying "You get what you deserve."
I think you're really hard on yourself. We are all students in this life. When we know better, we do better. I'm sure if you knew everything about self-esteem, self-respect, control, real love before you would have treated your wife differently. You have and continue to improve who you are. Its time you stop holding yourself hostage with this crap. ===========================================
W is still withdrawn a lot. The best way I can describe it is, if I say something to her or ask a question she will respond with "fine" , "OK" , "hmmm" , "ummhmmm" , "huh" , "uh huh" with no emotion at all, very monotone and brief.
I wonder if she responds this way because in her mind, she is betraying OM. Sounds strange, I know. But we talk alot about how WAS's are guided by their emotions. Emotionally, she's with him so to have positive interaction with you, is a betrayal. Anyone else see this or it just me?
