Is the suicide thing something I can make better/worse? Or does it fall under the umbrella of "out of my hands" like everyting else? He currently seems much more stable, possibly less depressed than right after d day 4 months ago.

1)I'm not sure it's productive to ask this question now, but had I known this was an MLC on d day, would the DB recommendation have been to ask him to leave the house (which is what I did)? I don't feel we could have stayed in the same house whether "good" or "bad" and don't regret that decision. Just curious.

2)Since he's been kicked out he's commented that I'm becoming "miss indedpendent", doing many househould chores he didn't think I could/would. Is that bad? Good? Indifferent? It's who I am and I have no choice but to upkeep the house. I can't act like I'm incapable to suit him. But I'm also curious if/how this comes into play, if at all.

Thanks

Last edited by amg2; 05/19/10 01:07 AM.
M--14 years
T--20 years, HS sweethearts
dday #1--2002 EA
dday #2--2005 bar sl*t
dday #3/4--Feb 2010 texting/cell/physical/who knows what
Shortly after found out he had been injecting steroids for 2 years