Quote: Please fill me in on what turned things around for you
Well, let's see. I don't want to overload you here. I think we have to keep things as simple as possible. A vast amount of energy is required to break through inertia, bad habits and reactionary behavior. And lets face it, the stress caused by our situation is exhausting as well.
So, having said that... 1. I ceased all questions regarding OW. 2. I backed way off from discussing our relationship. 3. I kept my fear, insecurity and unhappiness out of the view of my H. (Okay, there were a few splippages - . We're only human afterall). 4. I explored and practiced my H's love language as often as possible. 5. I Practiced patience beyond any measure previously. 6. I learned to zip my lip and stop having the last word for the most part. 7. I practiced the fine art of doing nothing in times of doubt.
Quote: It sounds like there was OW.
Yes, there was another woman. He worked with her and she was in the picture from October of last year until the end of August of this year.
Quote: did he ever move out?
For a period of time, my H lived part time with me and part time at our other house.
Quote: This has been the hardest thing I've ever had to endure
No question about it. It is gut wrenching indeed. You are in the right place though. This bb is a powerful place and the support here is second to none.
