What would be appropriate consequences for your W's behavior? As long as she she doesn't suffer anything then she is not going to change just to be a good mother & wife! And....the longer she gets by with acting like this, the harder it will be to enforce boundaries.
Have you read Coach's thread on boundaries?
Being a "good wife", is being a "better mother". Its about the example one sets for their children. Do you want your son to be with men who treat them like you treat the dad? The same rules apply if you flip the roles.
