Hey FIB, just stopping by to say hi and see how you are doing.
Those are great goals, my friend. Since I have seen you in person, I know for a fact that you would look wonderful in a kilt. Just sayin'. LOL!
Biking is wonderful. I love it. Look for a club or just go find a path. You'll be getting out there and meeting like-minded people - men and women.
As for the whys about your wife. You know better than to ask those questions, don't you? Those are questions that cannot be answered so they are just taking up your headspace.
I am one of those women who do whatever I can to maintain the relationship between my h and my son. I cannot imagine being any other way.
Just continue to be the wonderful dad you have always been. Take whatever extra time comes your way. Children see and understand things way more than we give them credit for sometimes. Be sure to continue not saying anything negative about your X to them. She is, not matter what, their mother.
I know how heartbroken you are about this. I know it is the children that bothers you most. I promise you, they will be ok. They will.
You have set an amazing example for them. They take it all in FIB. You have shown them how to act with dignity, with courage and strength and honor. Now you must show them how to navigate through difficult times in life and come out ok on the other side. If you are ok, then they will feel safe and secure.
I pray that your X finds her way to being the kind of mother your children deserve. I pray that she realizes that they are young for only a little while. I pray that she begins to do the right thing by them and by you, their father.
And most of all, I pray for you, my friend. That you may find peace and fulfillment and happiness. I pray that you come to realize that all things happen for a reason and that this journey was a necessary and important one.
So, get out those bagpipes and your bicycle. Get out into the world and find your peace, FIB. Find your happiness. It's out there, you'll see.
