Do NOT be so naieve as to think he's given up on her... he's a predator Ken he KNOWS she's vulnerable.. He is NOT going to walk away... He may be frustrated and he may realize teh degree of RISK he's taking on now that you are fighting back finally, BUT, I wager he's still going to try again, even if its your wife that makes the call.
Do NOT be so sure your wife is going to leave... she gets a paycheque and then what? Reality starts to hit her...
Small apartment, uncertain future, part time mother, public embarassment because presumably you have exposed her affair well to protect YOUR reputation...
Do NOT listen to ANYof the complaints she has right now or take them to heart.. you seem to be concerned about them.. don't be... we have ALL HEARD THAT GARBAGE... Once the addiction is gone then won't even remember half of what they said to you... Its just going to be a bad dream they wish they could forget...
Protection Phase Ken... Read Penny Tupy's eBook, that's the best advice you can get right now... OM is still in the picture, don't be so confident that he's gone now... He just wanted to put you at ease and less vigilant.
There are many people on this forum who were confident the affair was over only to realize a year or even MORe later that its started up again...
Do NOT rest on your laurels or get confident yet... you have JUST STARTED to FIGHT BACK in the last few weeks.. Race isn't over yet Ken... Stakes are just higher now...
Do everything you can according to the law to protect your kids from your wife right now, she is NOT fit to care for them while she's addicted to this OM.
She may leave to try to make a point, but YOU have to be STRONG and stay put and stay back.. as long as you and your kids are safe, she has to grow up on her own... She moves out its like a time out for a child... do NOT accept any contact or initiate any... IGNORE her as long as your kids are with you and safe.
