maybe if I do the work then it looks like it was my idea?
Forcing the H to be the bad guy! That way,she will come out smelling like a rose. Don't let that happen. You can expect her to apply pressure, trying to make you mad enough to go file....and that's why she tells you all that stuff.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
