I can't believe I found you. We are so much alike. I've been trying to read all through your thread. But Andabelle is right. I was on AD's and it took 6 weeks, for mine to finally kick in.
Rysmom, The only way you will know what he feels is to ask him. My guess is that at this point he will tell you what he thinks you want to hear {if he responds at all} so there really is no point in asking. This is a cheeseless tunnel. Direct your attention elsewhere.
You have to focus on controlling what you can, which is yourself. It sounds like your weekend was fun. It is important to fill your days with people and tasks that bring you joy. What is your day like today? Do you have class? Have you decided what country you are going to use for your paper? What brings you joy today?
~ swl
Look not mournfully into the past. It comes not back again. Wisely improve the present. It is thine. Go forth to meet the shadowy future, without fear. {Henry Wadsworth Longfellow}
Hi How are you doing? Do you have children? Today didn't start out to well my son didn't go to school again he has a stomach ache. I am going to take him to my counselor tomorrow. I text h and told him son didn't go to school. His grades are really slipping.I get so angry at h. I didn't make it to my class because I was hoping son was going to go in late. He is working on his paper for biology at least. I take a half of the smallest zoloft what are you taking? I am very sensitive to meds so Im going slow. Does it help you with dep. and anxiety? My sister lives by Hershey are you near there?
What brings me joy today is having my son here with me and thinking of my nephews new baby girl. She is so cute and his fiance is a really nice girl. Im happy they have each other. How are you doing?
H talked to son last night and said maybe we can sit down and have dinner. I don't know if h meant if they would have dinner here. Last time we were separated I would ask h to come over to eat dinner with our son and he usually did.I don't know if I should invite him or not. He wants to see son because he didnt get to see him over weekend because we went away. H also said tell mommy im getting my motorcycle wed too. I think this is what upset my son because he knew I didn't want h to take it but I guess im going to let him have it tomorrow. This will be difficult for me but I can't control the mlc creep.H better hope ow husband doesnt see him on it, he might run him off the road. Her h said a lot of people in town don't like my h because they know what he did. I wasn't able to go running today because of the rain. I hate when I can't run I need the endorphins, especially now. I have been running for the past 30 yrs almost every day. I love it.
I'm almost in the same boat as you are, yes I have children. Both of them are in counseling and D13 missed so much school that she will have to attend summer school this year. She was an honor student. Her grades were terrible these past 18 months! She barely passed last year when H left.
Her counselor had me, H, and her in counseling for co-parenting but of course H thinks counseling is no good, so he stopped attending her sessions. When D13, H, and myself all took the same test at the beginning of counseling it came out that she was suffering from depression and anxiety according to the counselor, me, and D13. H didn't even come close. His results for her came out as attention seeking.
He always did have learning problems but the questions were very easy. And that was back when we were only separated for about 4 months. His step-mother said she will get through it....by the way she is pro-divorce. And I have no one now to talk to about kids at all. They don't bother with the kids at all. Then to top it off H started talking to his real mother that he didn't speak to for over 12yrs. a couple of months ago and they hate me too. He told all of them that I cheated on him and that's why he left. Now, the real mother and step-father are the ones that talked me into marrying H and even picked out our wedding date which was their anniversary too.
I'm about 1 1/2 hrs away from Hershey. It took me 4 different AD's to get the right one because I kept losing weight from all of them and the Dr. was afraid because I lost 25lbs. which I could not afford to lose in the first place and then kept losing due to the AD's.
It helps out great with the anxiety but I'm also on xanax but as far as the depression goes, they told me there is no pill that will make you feel 100% great and that I need to help myself also.
I'm still a mess. I'm standing for my M. And there are so many great people on this board that tried to help me but I haven't been able to fully detach from H. So this is really slowing my progress down a lot.
I needed the 2 X 4's and boy did I get them to help me to start to detach. If you want hop over to my thread and you will understand all of the mistakes I made and hopefully you won't make the same ones I did and have to start all over again.
My h is trying to make his mothers house like ours at much as possible. which i like because he probably misses our house it is nicer than hers. he had a deck put on and put bay windows in the sun room like our house. We have an in ground pool though and she doesn't. I read when they change there living situation it is good sign because it shows they are not content. They are in a counterfeit relationship and they won't find happiness. His mother is paying for everything just to make h happy and keep him living with her, she is so sick. H father was very frugal, he died in oct. and now h and his mother are blowing the life savings.
