It's usually the HD person who goes out and looks for answers or help, if you will. The LD individual is happy. They have life on their terms and the way they want it. And think again if you don't realize there is also an element of control here.
One of the sad things that's not often discussed is over time, we tend to lose all respect for our partners. Once that happens, the relationship is even harder to repair. GAL is a great philosophy and it ensures you will be able to go on even if the marriage doesn't make it. You will survive because you have a life. Once you are successful with GAL, you will likely have even less tolerance for your SO's lack of interest.
