Confused and looking for advice

[DownNotOut...yet]

Hi HM, It sort of seems cliche or fashionable around here to say, "It's an affair." but I'm gonna vote with Puppy on this one. This stinks of affair. If I had to put money down, he is seeing someone at work and he has a pre-paid cell phone. After being around these boards for a few years now, the patterns are amazingly predictable. Even your responses to Puppy's posts are standard issue.

The wife (or husband) is always the last to know as they seem armed with some kind of blinders that keep them from seeing it.

If he is wafffling, you are NOT 100% done. It would be most useful to your situation to absolutely know what you are dealing with.

He has encouraged me to buy a new place and move on and if he decides to come back in the future hopefully I will take him back but he just cannot deal with it right now.

This is something woman seem to say more than men, but interpreted with a bullsh!t filter applied, this means, "I'll be home if the affair doesn't turn out to be all I had thought it would be. Hopefully you'll be waiting around for me."