Naej, Expression may have to begin in written form (email) for difficult topics, otherwise it won't happen. It's time to move beyond expressing my feelings solely in my journal.
One morning last week, when my W complained about the bathroom arrangements, I emailed a response back to her, to let her know I was listening. I told her I was willing to switch bathrooms with her, as long as I could shave in the remodeled one, which has better lighting. She responded by saying that wasn't necessary, but would like to store her make-up there, so she could have access to it.
I'm planning on attending my ballroom venue tonight. The person who I kicked out of our home several weeks ago, is often there. I've decided that I'm not going to make a scene. He's the one who should be uncomfortable. If he says hello, I'll respond, but I won't engage in conversation, as if nothing has changed. I've learned that one can forgive and keep a pure heart, but it doesn't mean a R has to be restored. In an ideal world, he would come over and apologize to me, but I'm not holding my breath. I'm not looking for justice, but have used the incident as a wake-up call to improve relational skills.
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CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
