She's really anxious about the house selling. That may be holding her back from getting her own place, but you would know better than I if that were true.
If it were me, I'd respond, but I'd be as brief as possible. You can basically sum up all your questions by asking the question "how do you feel about it?" That way, instead of answering a specific question, her answer may be broad enough to give you some more insight into why she's asking.
A quick update from me. Pretty confident that I am dealing with MLC in my sitch vs. WAW. The two can be similar, but I think there are a couple of differences that I am experiencing. The WAW seems to not want to contact the LBH. My W has no problem contacting me, or me contacting her. The other difference it seems is with big emotional swings. The WAW seems to be consistent in their emotion toward the H, but in MLC the emotional balance is way off kilter. Over the course of a week, it's not uncommon for both depression and anger (which from what I understand are related, but I'm no expert). Most of what I read also says that in MLC, the anger gets taken out pretty exclusively on the spouse.
