So I was thinking today that before we get into a fight and I then throw out the idea of going to MC again, I would try to do it during a time of peace. She reluctantly agreed before but we also were in a fight just before that. I think we can go a long way to fixing things if MC can get her to open up. The more I think about the situation, the more I believe that her family has caused damage that I have unintentionally poured salt into the wounds. So if a MC can get her to open up I think we can get a lot more healed. She personally is hurting I know by the things she tells me. But I cannot do anything about it until she says what hurts.
So my question is, how do I introduce the idea of going to a MC in a non-aggressive way so that she does not feel controlled or manipulated?
I was thinking of saying something like, "I feel like I need to come to grips with the problems I brought to our relationship. But to fully understand what has happened and what to do I think we need to seek professional counseling. I have researched for the best MC our insurance will pay for and I would like to invite you to go with me."
What do you guys think? I just know I want to be non-offensive but also confident and not begging. Also, what do I do if she says "no, it is over" I just want to be prepared because I do not want to beg.
