help with a plan

[Barkley]

I just finished reading all 39 pages regarding your situation. I don't know you but am "proud" of you for hanging in there taking care of the kids (who should always come first) and doing everything you can to save the marriage. At the end of the day, no matter what happens, you will have a clear conscience and be able to say that you did EVERYTHING you could. I am in a VERY similar boat, although I do not think there is another man at this point. Keep doing what you are doing and trust in God. I have only been in my situation for 3 months now and have gone from confused to devastated to angry to numb. I have begun detaching from my alien and have decided to improve as a husband and father for myself. The spoiled teenage girl can either stay or go.....