I'm almost in the same boat as you are, yes I have children. Both of them are in counseling and D13 missed so much school that she will have to attend summer school this year. She was an honor student. Her grades were terrible these past 18 months! She barely passed last year when H left.
Her counselor had me, H, and her in counseling for co-parenting but of course H thinks counseling is no good, so he stopped attending her sessions. When D13, H, and myself all took the same test at the beginning of counseling it came out that she was suffering from depression and anxiety according to the counselor, me, and D13. H didn't even come close. His results for her came out as attention seeking.
He always did have learning problems but the questions were very easy. And that was back when we were only separated for about 4 months. His step-mother said she will get through it....by the way she is pro-divorce. And I have no one now to talk to about kids at all. They don't bother with the kids at all. Then to top it off H started talking to his real mother that he didn't speak to for over 12yrs. a couple of months ago and they hate me too. He told all of them that I cheated on him and that's why he left. Now, the real mother and step-father are the ones that talked me into marrying H and even picked out our wedding date which was their anniversary too.
I'm about 1 1/2 hrs away from Hershey. It took me 4 different AD's to get the right one because I kept losing weight from all of them and the Dr. was afraid because I lost 25lbs. which I could not afford to lose in the first place and then kept losing due to the AD's.
It helps out great with the anxiety but I'm also on xanax but as far as the depression goes, they told me there is no pill that will make you feel 100% great and that I need to help myself also.
I'm still a mess. I'm standing for my M. And there are so many great people on this board that tried to help me but I haven't been able to fully detach from H. So this is really slowing my progress down a lot.
I needed the 2 X 4's and boy did I get them to help me to start to detach. If you want hop over to my thread and you will understand all of the mistakes I made and hopefully you won't make the same ones I did and have to start all over again.
