I started writing about my long term sexless marriage(35+ years) here in 2006. I found the site after reading Michele's book. I will be eternally grateful to Michele for giving me the concept of GAL. I did Get a Life.
My story now has an ending. Not the one most of you want to hear but it is a happy ending.
I told the H back in 1998 he had 10 years to get therapy, see docs, do whatever he needed to do to become a husband to me in every sense of the word
......Everyone deserves to be loved and I did without for too long.
My divorce from H will be done this summer. I hope he finds it within himself to change and finds someone he can love. Now I get to be poor but well loved. It's a good trade.
...There is life after a sexless marriage. And there is sex after a sexless marriage. A lot of sex. It can happen.
Best of luck to all of you!
Congratulations! I am so happy for you. What an inspiring message about GAL. There is a sticky post about the steps and timeframe for the resolution of a SSM. A couple of the critical steps are when you work on your GAL and when your spouse desides to commit to changing and improving the relationship.
It sounds like you did the GAL, offered to be supportive of change, gave him lots of time to change and then moved on in a way that holds no anger. Again, congratualations and thank you for sharing your happy story. I wish you lots of happiness in the future.
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
