Without a stern no-contact letter sent, a GOOD transparency plan set up, and GOOD marriage counseling with a therapist trained in infidelity, I would guesstimate the recidivism rate of affairs is well over 75% -- perhaps as high as 90%. I'm including in these figures the recurrence of an affair with someone other than OM1/OW1.
Hell, even WITH those things in place, it's a rough row to hoe (but it can certainly be done). Without them, the odds are stacked greatly against you. Physiologically, ANY contact -- even negative contact (say, an argument) -- with the OM/OW sets the "withdrawal clock" back to 0:00.
