The ride the crest thing reminded me of how to get out of a rip current (you Floridians must have heard of those ): rule #1 You do not fight against it, you follow it and let it take you out by itself. You do not fight waves, you'll just exhaust yourself and ultimately drown. You must use the energy in the upsurge to carry you where you want to be and let the downsurge pass through...
Am I rambling too much? Mixing my metaphors here... Too early for alcohol...
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
Okay, I'm having to work a little harder to stay centered on my surfboard today.
Ever since the party on Saturday night, H has been a little bit distant, (not in a bad way) touching me less than usual, and now he has gone out without any explanation as to where he is going. I DIDN'T ask...
He's been gone for almost two hours. Silly...I know.
Normally, I would just occupy myself with any number of projects and not stress over it. But because of his slight change in demeanor, I find myself listening to the heavy undercurrents thundering deep inside.
I'm keeping busy but....
It's probably nothing to be concerned about, I just feel the need to post what I'm feeling right now.
I HATE Those stinking flashbacks...the emotional kind, where you're again in that DOUBTING mode.
You're right, probably IS nothing...or if he's feeling like he needs some time on his own, take a drive or something, it's very good that you didn't query him about it...why make the last interaction before he heads out be a negative one?
It would be SO hard for me, though, I must say. CJ always mentions where he's off to now. (for example at this second....to the grocery store).
Could it be a test, even if unconscious? How would the "old" Jeannine have reacted? Or when he gets home?
Tough calls once we're piecing...do we let it go, DB our butts off...or do we start calling them on stuff?
Or an intermediate, calm request that if one of you is going out for longer than an hour or so, you let the other know out of courtesy? So they don't worry?
Of course in the bad days when I asked this of CJ, he told me he felt like I was his parole officer!
Quote: Or an intermediate, calm request that if one of you is going out for longer than an hour or so, you let the other know out of courtesy? So they don't worry?
I , you know, would vote for that one... me of the big mouth... with a big bold stress in the calm part.
Also I would disociate it from any particular incident by waiting a while and asking when he is in a good mood and preferrably when he has called to say when he is going to come home.
You may want to make it into a 'me statement': I really appreciate it when... because..."
But all y'all know me: the when in doubt take the direct approach kinda gal.
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
): rule #1 You do not fight against it, you follow it and let it take you out by itself. You do not fight waves, you'll just exhaust yourself and ultimately drown. You must use the energy in the upsurge to carry you where you want to be and let the downsurge pass through...
