"H told the MC that I don't seem to want to work on M because every time he tries to bring up R for discussion I change the subject. I responded as honestly as possible that I don't feel the need to hear him remind me of his feelings."
What did the C say about that? That was really good stuff right there! If you said it.. the way you said it here.. Good Stuff!! He is pointing out you are not playing his "drama" game. This is confusing him some. Seems like he is saying you used to play the game with him. You are not the one that has to "work" on the marriage.. last I checked he wanted out.
"This has really set us back. H feels like such a failure and is tortured by the fact that I was not very supportive."
To address this.. be honest.
H about last week.. When you called me I was very upset about the kids being unaccounted for. I understand it was an accident and I let my anger get the best of me.. and I took it out on you. I know this was not an intentional act on your part. I love you and the kids and I never want anything bad to happen to any of you.
Something like that..
"Am I just paranoid since seeing all the posts about another LBS H getting on here? Is there a keylogger tracking me right now? I have no room in my emotions for paranoia. That would be way too exhausting! Maybe it doesn't even matter. This site has given me amazing support and perspective. H should be glad I am sharing things here and not with in our circles of folks in person."
Well.. if he is reading.. or logging.. and still got you the laptop.. I gotta think that is a good thing. Anything a logger picks up.. is not usable in court. Unless you click on something that allows you to be tracked.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
