WHy are you calling OW a "friend" and enabling all of this?
I just don't understand any of the strategy here...
After the divorce he is always going to be saying "YOU wanted the divoce, YOU told me to file"
MB28, just DETACH.. the divorce paperwork is JUST PAPER... let HIM file it... YOU just live your life... stop fixating YOUR sanity of if a piece of paper is filed.
He's walking all over you right now.. you agreed not to introduce kids to anyone new and here he is diong it anyways...
I would SHUT him OUT and STOP COMMUNICATING... stop enabling him... DE TACH emotionally and physically.. forget the paperwork and get OUT of the marriage EMOTIONALLY so you can think straight... do NOT tell him to file, he will blame YOU for the divorce...
OW is probably pressuring him to file too... That's likley what yoru H wants is for BOTH you and OW to agree for him to file.. so you BOTH are in agreement.. he doens't want to hurt anyone so he's manipulating you BOTH into getting him to file...I say make her wait ... She will likley lose patience if you keep tight and don't ask him to file...