I still see so much focus on your wife, yet small steps on yourself. I know....there is a lot on your plate. I understand that, but I still don't think we have found the true DBS. You have been going through the process for a long time....a real long time. There are a lot of positives that I see, though I am still looking for the true identity of DBS to shine.
I was watching United States of Tara and a good point was brought up. Sometimes people become so attuned to helping their spouse in situation similar to yours, that they loss sight of themselves. In the end they live to help their spouse and that is how their life is defined. I want to see DBS totally released from that situation. Living for DBS alone! You are knocking on that door and it is time to open it. Stop worrying about time lines, crazy stalkers, and even the divorce. Focus on you completely. Once that happens the other stuffs disappears and I think you will see the situation change drastically and your perception of it all will change even more.
So what would Dbs look like without the desire to help his wife?
Disclaimer-Support and help are two different things. Remember that you can support your wife as she goes through her process, but you can't help.
