Looking for help with WAW

[mza8]

Update,

W emailed me this morning with a longer email than her past few emails. She emailed today about the house. She also told me she stopped by the house over the weekend and picked up the electric bill and will mail the payment this week.

She spent the rest of the email talking about the house. She said she noticed the agent didn’t have her name on the sign and didn’t have one of those brochure boxes on the sign. I have been surprised that the agent didn’t do these things but I wasn’t going to say anything as this is the “great” agent my W wanted. Anyway, she said she was thinking about contacting the agent and asking her to do these two things and W asked me what I thought. W then said she hasn’t heard much about any house showings and asked me if I heard or knew how it’s going. She said the agent mentioned that the feedback has been that the backyard is small and about the price. W said that she felt if someone was truly interested she feels like they would make an offer. She answered her own question there…no one has been truly interested yet.

W then tells me she was thinking we could do some landscaping changes to the backyard to make it appear larger. “We”? I don’t think so, more like me. She asked me what I thought about removing a tree in our backyard to make the yard look bigger. She asked me if I would want to take this tree to my parent’s yard. Umm, this tree is 20 ft. tall and 8 years old. It would be near impossible to remove it and re-plant it. What is she thinking? By the way this tree is my favorite in our yard. I think that’s why she asked if I would want to move it instead of just cutting it down. W ended the email by saying she wasn’t sure what I was thinking and wanted to touch base. In her last sentence of the email she said that she hopes I am having a good week. Wow, that was a surprise.

Ok, lots of thoughts and some questions here. I mentioned that I didn’t respond to her last email in which she asked me about the real estate market. That email was last Thursday. Now she initiated contact again. Just as a reminder I have not initiated any contact with my W (other than the birthday flowers) in close to two months. She has been emailing me. So here I am five days since her last email and she emailed me again. Could my NC finally be starting to work? Just a little maybe?

I’ve notice a few similarities in her emails. She asks for my opinion, she contacts me for things which she could take care of on her own and she thought of me (for example, she told me about our gym membership which she didn’t have to do and today she said she hopes I’m having a good week). None of these things did my W need to contact me about. So why is she? She could have taken care of the electric bill, she didn’t need to tell me about the gym membership, she could have taken care of the agent, she didn’t need to ask my opinion on anything and she certainly didn’t need to tell me she hopes I’m having a good week.

So what now? Do I respond to her email today? What do I say? I want to get this right. Here’s what I was thinking of saying.

W, I think that’s a good idea to contact the agent about adding her name to the sign and adding the brochure box. Thank you for doing this and for taking care of the electric bill. I appreciate it. (my IC tells me it’s important to thank W to let her know I appreciate her, W has thanked me for some things too)

In my opinion I don’t think removing the tree will make the yard appear too much larger. Like the other homes in our neighborhood we have a small yard and there’s not much we can do about it. The house has only been for sale for a month and it will take time to sell it in this market. We haven’t had anyone who has been interested enough to make an offer yet. It’s early and the house will sell eventually. Overall the market is still slow but showing signs of improvement. (this sentence answers her question from her previous email about market conditions). Like the agent said, there isn’t much going on with the house to report. I’ll keep you updated when we have any activity on the house. (not sure if I want to include this sentence or not, for several reasons)

How do you feel about the progress with the house? What are your feelings about the agent? Do you think there’s anything else we could do? When you came over this weekend, did you think there’s anything else that needs to be done on the house? I think things are normal considering the market conditions and the house has only been on the market for a month. It might take some time before we see any offers.

I hope you are having a good week too. (really not sure about this sentence either, don’t want to sound needy but thinking I should acknowledge her sentiment)

mza8

What does everyone think? If I do respond should I respond today or wait a day or two?

Thanks for any advice.