Ok thanks FB...thats my thing...I know I should communicate this too him...but doing it without it seeming like iM attacking him is what Im trying to figure out. Thank you for your suggestion...but why do you feel bad karma or the unsafe feeling? Just wondering.

SCh... I guess what made me feel it was safe for my H to come back was that we were getting along so well. I saw a difference in him than the multiple times before. He did miss me. Of course it was simplier to come back. He also told someone he was tired of being stupid about it. It was very expensive with him on his own. He had no money, was always alone too. I dont think he liked being on his own. He never disrespected me to other people at all or to the children. He came from a divorced family where the stepmom and his dad raised him. The stepmom Im SURE said negative things about his mom that has affected his relationships with both to this day. So I am positive he would NEVER say anything negative about me to the kids...

I can say the biggest changes was seeing the OW out of the picture more than ever. Of course they still speak occasionally...but he wasnt "all about her" like before. It was like he was finally over the withdrawal and addiction of her. I dont know if that helps you any, but I hope some of it will....and of course I dont mind smile

Kissak

"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3
M-37 H-37
S-10, D-15
M- 1993
First bomb- 12/23/06
Came and went too MANY times!
Gone again 10-25-10