"I don't want to go anywhere you might not, but what is the situation regarding OW? Is she out of the picture?"
From where I stand, it appears that the OW is no longer a part of the equation. As I'm sure many women here can relate to this, I will mention that my H made many proclamations that he was "breaking it off", or had "broken it off" with OW, over a period of several grueling months. But of course, this was just part and parcel of the maddness that he was generating at the time.
Then in July of this year, he told me that he "had burned that bridge" regarding his inappropriate relationship with her. Now, what led me to believe him THIS time, were some very specific actions. The most significant being when he chose to bring me into his workplace for the first time (since the marital digression began) and sort of reintroduced me to the staff.
(H and OW worked together)
However, I could tell that although he had ended it with her on a physical/social level, he had not succeeded in ending it on a pyschological/emotional level. This undisclosed fact was evident in his demeanor and his subsequent behavior.
Although I believe that there was a good possiblity he'd disconnect from her on all levels in time, it's obvious that the abrupt termination of his job was instrumental in accelerating the process.
My overall impression is that the OW is history. However, I must admit that I do have moments when I get caught in the current of my own fears. I find pulling myself back into the "now" helps me to paddle back to shore.
"I started gaining back the weight too, but am also working out and lifting weights,"
I didn't realize that you also were struggling with weight loss. I garden in place of weight lifting. I know what you mean about trying to have a say in "where" you "want" the weight to go as it returns.
Jeannine, I lost about 25 pounds. Am wearing a size 2... my boobs are like baggies with water in them (is that a lovely picture, or what?) but I find the weight is coming back too fast for me now that I am eating, not worrying and sleeping better. You are sounding good! OW is still very much in this picture.
Relax. Appreciate. Be calm. Laugh. Enjoy. Be secure. Be loving. Be loved. Don't personalize. Don't ASSume. Accept. Be grateful.
you should most assuredly feel hope. each day you are alive there is reason for hope, and especially since you have seeing forward movements you should have hope
things are looking good for you, just keep the pace - this isn't a race - but a test of endurance
congrats on the weight gain, you know, i have about 30 pounds i am looking to get rid of? could i interest you in a trade?
