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[/quote]I am hoping that, being around the corner, she will 'dump' them on me at every chance.[quote]


FIB,
I have read your posts here and have to agree that NY really fails at divorce law. Archaic actually. Anyway, my son and X just signed D papers. Their D went smoothly as they were only married Six years and did not have many assets. They do have Twin sons with one being Autistic. One of the reasons my son left is that W liked to party and was never home so son was mother and father to the boys. They have joint legal physical custody. my sons contributes everything( and I mean everything)they need. The school even calls him before they call her as they know how she is.

XW calls him constantly on her days with them asking him to take them which he readily agrees to because he knows that it is the only chance they have for a normal structured life. Heck, he even calls her and asks to take them and she jumps on it.
Maybe XW will do the same once reality hits and she is taking care of them by herself with out you there and she wants to live the single life (like my DIL did while married and still continues to do so.) Children put a damper on socializing all the time. wink

Hopefully this would be the case for you to be able to be with your children more because it seems, for the children, their life will be a lot more structured,calm, and peaceful if they are with you right now.

Keeping you in my prayers
JAK

Last edited by JoJo's circus; 05/18/10 02:41 PM.
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