My Wife And Her Emotional Affair

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She also was saying that I was controlling and manipulating her by saying that I would seek custody of the kids and saying she was neglecting the kids. And I told her, "I was only trying to save my marriage. I'm just trying to get you to choose. Reconcile or go live with someone who is not controlling and manipulative, is not critical of you, and will not cheat on you." I said those things because she knows that is a perfect description of the OM and she thinks he has been critical of her.

I said, "You cannot even keep your agreement for one day." Then she jumped up and followed me around trying to figure out how I knew she talked to the OM. At first, she thought my kids told me. Then I got her thinking that I can access her phone log online (which I can't). So she yanked the cords out of the computers and picked up a monitor but I stopped her from breaking it.

When the OM called, he also admitted to talking to W on the phone during the day. Later, he sent me this email:

"W is your wife, and I suppose it is your right to use manipulations, distortions, your own children or her parents to control her. Frankly, I just try being nice and respectful to her. But you win! I hope that your marriage can be happy as such!

I enjoyed being her friend while it lasted. You alone are a detriment to her future happiness!"

I did not respond.

My wife goes to talk to a lawyer today to learn about her rights. All the things that she complains about about me are things that happened years ago, except for maybe manipulating her by using the threat of D or the threat of keeping the kids from her (neither of which I really want to do). But I told her that I'm willing to go to counselling for being a "control freak" or for being a "manipulator" or whatever she thinks is my problem. She says that she can't eradicate the bad memories and that I killed the love she may have had for me. I told her that I wished she could get past that, because I want to be a different person for her.