Two days after our daughter had a febrile seizure a year aog, XW took her to work all day. When I asked to pick her up and take her home in the afternoon (I had finished early), she refused and my estranged MIL had her out. When they brought her home, then D6 was pale, fatigued and felt warm.
STBXW, then, was going to take her for a Cub Scout outing. I told her no. When she left with her, I almost called the police for the first time in my mess. Wisely, she brought her home 5 minutes later. D6 had a 101 fever. I wrote this up in a court document and the judge ordered CPS to investigate. XW went nuts on me.
Stay strong. Do the right thing for your child. A patient of mine who was a family court judge once said to me, "you have an obligation as a parent to keep your children safe."
Praying.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
FIB, Thank you for your kind words. I will do everything to protect my child. My ex is out of control. After the CPS investigation, I will be going to family court to change the visitation schedule. If something else happens to her I would never be able to live with myself.
She is doing fine and we talk alot about what happened. The 8 year-old boy will be doing mandatory therapy and hopefully they will be able to get to the source of his problems.
My ex is quite the narcissist, so this has made him livid. I don't care how he reacts anymore, he just needs to stay away from me and my kids.
Trusting
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
T on top of how horrible all of this is for your D5 and the rest of the family the other thing that I find sad is that up until this incident you were still standing. Your XH really doesn't have a clue how lucky he was to have you in his life. FWIW if it were me I would have stopped standing too (although in my own case I did that when OW got pregnant).
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15
Thanks ACJ, That was the last straw for me. If he does not protect his children, he is no man for me. He is a coward and a low life who just thinks about himself. Thank you for your kind words also. I don't think my ex will ever find his way back.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
ACJ, My ex got fixed so I am sure I would be facing the pregnancy thing also.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
Well since the huge blowout I had with my ex regarding my 5 year old he has been quiet and compliant.
He paid me the 2 months of child support he was behind on.
He has done everything to make sure my child is safe from OW's son.
He is however telling everyone that I have emotional problems (projection at its finest), but that is ok.
Last edited by TRUSTING; 05/27/1009:44 PM.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
I'm glad to read that hs'e paid the two months of CS he as behind on.
You have emotional problems? Does he ever think about how he sounds? There are only two people that I see w/issues and that is your xh and the ow. When will his battery die and he come back to earth?
I'm glad you are taking every measure to protect your child.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
