I still align with john on his outlook. I think that stating he loves you and that wants to stay in the marriage is all positive of course. There is still much work to do and, still, a lot of it rests on HIS shoulders.

I agree with john in that a professional is needed here to help you both fill in all the cracks with cement. A marriage that has suffered from infidelity , to me, is like your favorite coffee mug that had the handle broken off and re-glued on. You must get the best glue to reattach the handle or your future cup of coffee is going to land in your lap and burn you. It's simply a fact....a statistic.

We know in medicine that a woman who has breast cancer in one breast, has an increased chance of developing cancer in the other breast. So, we keep that woman on biannual surveillance. We also know that a person who has cheated has a higher risk of cheating again.

Pessimist? No, not me. I"ve been where you are. I think it just needs a maximal effort to make sure the handle stays on.

Do they have Retrouvaille in Greece?

FIB

Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11)
Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t
Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10
Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;