Thanks PG and Abbey.

I am avoiding contact before I leave, and will not contact her while I am gone. I am thinking about leaving her a letter when I depart.

She is set on filing in June, but said yesterday she might be willing to postpone until Sept.

I am letting her process the MC session yesterday, and we shall see what she has to say. I am going to let her contact me.

I was interesting that she commented on my change in attitude yesterday, clearly suspicious that change is even possible. My biggest concern is that she has conjoured me into a controlling monster in our relationship, which was never really true. I don't know how to fight that impression, especially when we are separated.


H 51, W 46
no kids
T 22 years
M 17 years
ILBNILWY 2/10
1st D talk 6/10
partial recovery
W files D 5/11
long distance separation 8/11
moving forward on D 10/11
legal separation complete 1/2012