You weren't kidding about being in the same place hun.
Willing to do the work; he blames you and says you are angry. I know 21 years of marriage is nothing to 5+2 years of dating and I know that I don't have kids adding into the mix. Plus military life for the "soldier" and the wife can be very unique and difficult.
Like others have told me - only you know when enough is enough.
Just an interesting note I seen -I was looking at your profile and I noticed that we came to these boards just 3 days apart from each other. (weird that for some people, like yourself, you can go back to your original posts but mine don't).
Here we are, 5 years later. My D was final 47 days later (yep, Ohio dissolution is quick) & I started (or restarted) the R with BF and we see where that has brought me to as of today.
Just a suggestion - maybe you should look back, from the very begining of your R. All the ups and downs. Maybe even make a list of all the positives and negatives. Then also look specifically at the last 5 years. What brought you the boards, the journey you and the marriage have been on.
Who knows - maybe I'm just babbling cause I didn't get much sleep.
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn't do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.
