Since you have her "on board" and pretty positive with reconsiliation, is there any way you can get her to read some R books with you?
I think society is very "anti male" at the moment, and women are given a lot of mixed messeges about what men need. You have probably done a lot of work to see what she needs (Haven't read your sitch, but the guys that are here become experts pretty quickly) But women, in general, are pretty open to R books and this may be the time to suggest some reading (especially if you do it together--I would love it if my H was willing to read some R books with me)
Chapman's 5 LLs is a fun little book and is REALLY helpful. The online test is also super easy and "fun".
And I just finished one calle Love and Respect which was really good-very easy reading, a section for the guys and a section for the gals.
I personally enjoyed Dr. Laura's Care and Feeding of Husbands, but some women really balk at reading that book.
