Wow! Those are all great ideas! That's got me thinking outside of the box.
I like the ideas of cutting off finances, cutting off the TV, and not paying the mortgage. I'm just a little afraid of alienating her to the point where she hates me and doesn't want to come back.
My wife got really angry with me this evening when our 3yo daughter kept saying, "I want Daddy! I want Daddy!" when it was time for her bath and I said, "See, you are alienating the kids." W was fuming! She was in my face yelling at me for quite awhile and I just stood there and didn't say much.
Then she went out and called the OM. When she came back, the OM called our house phone. So I answered and listened to his ranting and raving and calling me names and I also recorded the conversation and got him saying "Yea, I probably told her I loved her 100 times!" and basically admitting to the affair.
Now she is talking about changing her cell phone # and keeping her cell phone off and stuff like that. We'll see.
The OM tried calling back TEN TIMES up until midnight. My wife yanked the plugs out.
My wife is asking for a divorce and I don't completely understand why.