I've decided that if she won't follow me to a new MC, I'll just go and see what happens. My biggest disappointment with the first MC was she asked us not to discuss our relationship outside of her office, and then never proceeded to help us learn/negotiate how to communicate productively on our own.
I did read SSM last year, and it hit home. I asked her to read the first chapter and she eventually did, but doesn't seem interested in following up. Anytime anything having to do with sex comes up it makes her uncomfortable. On our MC's suggestion, I picked up a book, "101 Nights of Romance", which has alternating secret (romantic) activity booklets for us to surprise each other with. I enjoyed doing three of them and I think she did too. She did one, didn't seem to like it, and has basically blown off any further reciprocal activity. I want to say she's defensive about it, or she feels there's too much pressure. If so, how do I bring her out?
