screwing up big time and need help

[elvencat]

Thanks for the comments Awoken. And after re-reading my plan, I realized I needed to have put the date completed for this coming Friday.. lol and I thought I did proofreading. And I've checked out meetup.com. It might be a good idea for me. Thanks!

NM- I'm glad you think the changes have been working so far. And I, too, wonder about the possibility of him spending more tme with OW, but here's what I've noticed so far: he has actually been spending less time meeting up with her! He hasn't been meeting her during the day, and in the past week, he hasn't gone over there as much in the evenings. Of course, this could be mere coincidence, so I'll have to keep monitoring, but I have hope.

So, I'm getting closer to my deadline on getting into the house. I applied for aid, and have viewed job openings (haven't found much, but something is better than nothing), and I'm cleaning the house.

We had quite a bit of stuff in storage from when we moved from our 2-bedroom apt into the basement apt before DD was born. And now that is all moved into the house. I have so many boxes to go through it is unreal. I'm going to have a huge yard sale when I'm done! But the reason this is important is that tonight I wanted to go to the house to work, but I knew DD would want to come with me and she'd be a little too helpful. I decided to ask H if he wanted to come and keep DD occupied so I could sort things. He actually agreed! It was a rather nice time, even though I was doing something I dreaded. I got H's input on what to keep and what not to keep, and he got to play with DD where he didn't feel overwhelmed with taking care of her. And at one point he called me Hon.... something he hasn't done in a very long time.

I can't get my hopes up too much, but I'm starting to see behavior changes in him that I didn't expect to. And I'm changing my behaviors myself. I didn't realize how combative I was being until I started watching my own actions so closely.