Thank you Jack and Shelbel. This is exactly what I needed to clarify. At this point I can do it but I certainly don't mean it when I say "have fun". And the depression/resentment afterwards is difficult...but now at least I know for sure it's the right thing.

Jack refers to something else I'm wondering about...do I ever get to confront? Do I ever get to go back and say "It didn't make sense when you said you were going to such and such to watch the game. Was that true?". If/after the MLCer comes out of this do you just have to forget it all as if it never happened?

THANK YOU SO MUCH!


M--14 years
T--20 years, HS sweethearts
dday #1--2002 EA
dday #2--2005 bar sl*t
dday #3/4--Feb 2010 texting/cell/physical/who knows what
Shortly after found out he had been injecting steroids for 2 years