What percent of the time does/did your H recognize your efforts to nurture him? I did nurturing, loving things for my XH when we were together but I think they were difficult for him to accept. Early in my relationship with XH I would say "I love you" and H would respond "I don't like you to say that you love me. It's hard for me to believe that you do." This began when we were still blissfully in love, walking on clouds.
My point is, do you think your H recognizes and is able to accept your nurturing? Please understand, I'm not challenging your nurturing ability......just putting a question out there to think about. I don't know whether this is an issue in your sitch or not. In my case, I now know that XH didn't feel nurtured and that was what he really wanted. I wish that I'd found the book "The 5 Love Languages" (Gary Chapman) early in my relationship. I would have communicated in a way that H could understand, instead of using MY love languages, which weren't what he was really looking for.
