Renter's moved in. Nice, unassuming guy so far. X came to sign the Month-to-Month Lease this evening but "had to go" before we could get it done.(??)
Brought her ever-present "teacup" dog with her, as always. How unattractive - and matronly - that looks (apologies to any of you with ever-present "teacup" dogs; but you're not my X )
She said she agreed with me on not lowering house price, so that's good. Did, mention, however thinking about taking it off the market for a while if it doesn't sell by February. February? Why February? Just arbitrary, says she.
Immediately made me suspicious. She was - and still is - so p!ssed that last June I told her she could move back into house in December and I'd leave (weak, emotional moment) and then I had the temerity to change my mind!
Suspicious because of our divorce decree of 2/09. Since we went through mediation and my personal L (mostly) just ok'd document with changes,(iow, I wasn't paying him exorbitant $ for lots of advice), I've been suspicious as to how/why a clause got in there that if it doesn't sell by 5/1/11 (I know, a whole year away), she gets to reoccupy and I leave. I figured at the time, who cares? It's got to sell by then (15 months).
Still, always wondered why she got that put in there...
She was very pleasant. I didn't care. I was perfunctorily polite and agreeable. Glad when she left.
IC meeting tonight, beforehand. IC - who slightly knows of X (long story) - remains convinced that her abusive father's sudden death in 4/08 set off all sorts of unresolved conflicts culminating in unexplained Bomb in 11/08.
She thinks X is a mess (not her clinical term for it ), confused, f'd up, conflicted, demonizing the hell out of me out of necessity and probably very remorseful. I agree with most of that but see no evidence of the remorse. Nor do I care to. Nor would it change me now.
IC also thinks X was having an affair at time of bomb (long story/rationale as to why she believes this so strongly, so I'm not going to get into it) and also "strongly suspects" MC fostered some kind of "inappropriate relationship" with her.
Too late, anyway. I'd never want to reconcile now. I was a damned good H, partner, lover, friend, companion. Devoted and selfless. She tossed me and jerked me around for months.
Fool me once...
Official complaint(s) against MC for multiple ethics & standards violations is submitted and gone. My first IC, current IC and the two National Organization officials I dealt with are unanimously appalled at his behavior, actions, incompetence.
So, that ball is rolling. We'll see. Just glad I documented it and made it known.
I'm doing okay. Trying to stress less over absolutely enormous $ mess and day-by-day/month-by-month impossibility.
Renter will help that nut, though and give me a little breathing room, so that's good.
Thanks for being there, all.
Last edited by Gardener; 05/18/1002:41 AM.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
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), confused, f'd up, conflicted, demonizing the hell out of me out of necessity and probably very remorseful. I agree with most of that but see no evidence of the remorse. Nor do I care to. Nor would it change me now.
